How To Discern His Needs From His Nags

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I have been thinking about writing this post for months. I have had that awesome title written for even longer. No one likes a nag. No one enjoys being criticized. No one likes feeling inadequate or like they are just never enough. These things are all too common in marriage, though. How can we listen past the nagging and the criticism and hear what he is needing? How can we see past what's on the surface and through to what’s really happening in the hearts of our husbands? How can we respond with love and compassion rather than with hurt feelings and a great defense?

Great questions. We all know that stereotype that wives tend to be totally naggy. Y'all I did not know that husbands were just as guilty and capable of this nonsense as we are. I can’t say I have it all figured out but I do believe the Lord has been helping my husband and I work through these very issues lately. I know I have some tips and insights to share that will help you. Mike even helped me outline this post and gave lots of great feedback. 

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How To Forgive: When You Want To Let It Go But Just Can't

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Now I don’t know what “it” is for you all. “It” could be any number of things. It could be that somebody hurt you. Maybe your spouse or your mother in law said something that just keeps echoing in your mind and you can’t seem to let it go and move on. Maybe somebody wronged you. Maybe your neighbor got an extra car and he now parks in his driveway AND your parking spot. Maybe you didn’t get the promotion you were clearly next in line to get. Maybe you got skipped, forgotten, left behind, walked over or disrespected. 

Or maybe you messed up. Maybe you dropped the ball big time. Everyone says it’s okay but you just can’t move on and forgive yourself. Maybe you hurt someone else. Maybe you really hurt someone you love and you just don’t know how to move forward. Maybe you failed at something that wanted to prosper. 

Today I want to share sometimes for What To Do When You Want To Let It Go But Just Can’t!

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The Key To Overcoming Fear of Rejection

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I remember the night I got saved. I cried myself to sleep because I was so wonderfully overwhelmed by the fact that if I died I would go to heaven and be with Jesus. I was overwhelmed that Jesus would want to spend all of eternity with me. I am still overwhelmed that He choose to give His life just to make a way to spend forever with me.

Still, life goes on. Even as a Christian people will turn you away. They will reject you and offend you. How do we deal with these situations? How do we deal with rejection in a way that keeps us from retaliating and sinning in our anger? How do we find a way to love in the midst of rejection? I have been going through this quite a bit lately and I think I have some tips and encouragements  to share. This is just some stuff that the Lord has been sharing with me. 

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How To Be A Tremendous Person

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 Who doesn’t want to be better? A better friend. A better mother, sister, wife. A better daughter, niece, employee? There something in us that makes us want to be better. We are a reflection of a perfect and holy God and as long as we are walking with Him in this life we are always improving. Our character becoming more and more like His. 

Today I want to just quickly share something I have been reflecting on lately. What makes a tremendous person tremendous? Tremendous means extremely good or impressive. That’s a huge word nevertheless does someone come to mind when you think of that definition? 

Who someone in your life that you think is a tremendous person? What about this person makes them fit this definition in your mind? What is it about this person’s character and behaviors that make them stand out to you? 

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Four Tips For Loving Your Physical Touch Love Language Spouse

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I love trying to figure out other people Love Languages. I am always trying to figure out how to better speak my husband's languages and how to better incorporate them into friendships. I wrote this post on How To Love You Acts of Service Love Language Spouse based on what I've learned loving my husband. 

Today I want to focus on Physical Touch Love Language people. Because I am a Physical Touch myself, I want to share my tips. This has taken me a year to write. I think I find it challenging to talk about this particular language because it is mine and also because touch can have an overly sexualized connotation.  This Love Language is, however, pure and lovely at its core.

Touch is important, especially to a Physical Touch Love Language. These four tips are what I find matters to me as a Physical Touch love language. These are just my tips. They may not apply to you or your spouse but then again they may.

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Loving Him When it's Hard: Scriptures to Help You Love Your Husband

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Two becoming one can be as difficult and ridiculous as it sounds. I LOVE my husband and he LOVES me, but man, there are some moments where I find it extremely difficult to love him and I know myself well enough to know that there are times were it is difficult for him to choose to love me as well. 

I am still figuring out this marriage thing but I know that the passion and desire that I have to make the most of my marriage for God’s glory and to inspire other to do likewise is from my Father. Today I want to share some verses that help me to love my husband and really anyone (but especially my husband) when it is difficult. 

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How To Love More

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I don’t know about you guys, but I am pretty good at loving the people that I want to love. I am good at loving the people that matter to me. At least I like to think that I am good at it. If I am being completely honest, my love can be conditional at times. It is hard for me to love you after you’ve hurt me. It’s hard for me to love you when I feel like I can’t trust you. And that’s just with people that are important with me. 

People are difficult and they’re messy. Yet we are commanded in scripture to love them. As the church it is our job to reach out and love the unlovely but how can we do this? How can we be more loving to those that matter and those that are difficult? 

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