5 Things To Consider When Your Husband Lets You Down

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Sometimes husbands are disappointing. It’s simply inevitable when we decide to marry another flawed human being. From unmet expectations to unkept promises and forgotten plans, them letting us down from time to time, unfortunately, is bound to happen.

It is important how we respond to these situations. We believe the goal of marriage and conflict within marriage should always be connection. That’s what we all want, right? To feel connected and loved and known by our husbands.

As someone who tends to romanticize EVERYTHING, Mike has let me down on more than one occasion. Some more significant situations and most smaller but still challenging. These are some tips and practices we have learned over the years so far. 

I am aware that there are different degrees of let down. Some let downs do substantial damage. I believe this post can help in all situations, but for the more extreme disappointments like betrayal and the like, I highly suggest seeking help outside of your home if you are interested in working through the problem. 

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How To Forgive Others: 10 Bible Verses On Forgiveness

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How about a deep dive into some verses about forgiveness? One of the most challenging commands in scripture to adhere to is the command to forgive others. It can be hard to wrap our minds around the fact that we are supposed to forgive people who have hurt us and let us down.

Here’s the thing about forgiveness: It is not for them. It is for you. Forgiveness is a key that lets you out of a prison build on unforgiveness with walls and bars constructed of bitterness, anxiety, resentment, and bondage. 

Forgiveness does not mean the person is innocent or that what they’ve done isn’t wrong or hurtful. Forgiveness is you choosing not to remember their actions against them. Forgiveness is you deciding to move on free, whole and healed. Forgiveness is your declaration that you aren’t going to live as a victim anymore. 

Here are some excellent bible verses on forgiveness to help you on your journey. 

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To The Woman Who Thinks She's Unworthy Of Community

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As I write this post my family and I are traveling across Kansas on our way to our new home in Colorado. Our new home is approximately 1100 miles from our old and life long homes in West Virginia. It is safe to say this is quite the adventure for us.

With this new adventure comes the challenge of making new friends and finding a new community to do life with. As someone who is not the most socially out going I know how hard it can be to make new friends and build community.

A common challenge I see in women is the lie that they are somehow unworthy of the community they long for or that they have nothing to offer such a group of people. These are just that. Lies. 

Today we are going to look at some reasons why you are worthy of connection and community.

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Are You Cursing Your Relationships? - Life & Death in the Tongue

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Let's discuss the power of your tongue. Your tongue is mighty. You speak life or death with every word. Now I know that this is something most of us already know but is it something we pay attention to? 

I find this is one of those things we all know nevertheless we don’t always live it out. One area where it matters is our relationships. I have been sharing a lot lately about how to build community and why we all need to be a part of one. 

To grow in our groups and build strong relationships, we have to examine what we are saying about them and probably just our attitudes accordingly.

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7 Verses For The Struggling Marriage

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People warned us that the first year was the hardest. I am pretty sure those people have no idea what they are talking about because it was the second year that almost took us both out. When our marriage was falling apart, and talk of divorce began to come up, these are the verses to which I turned. 

Today’s post is for my dear sisters out there are in a marriage that is struggling. You worry you’re failing and that you will never figure it out but you don’t want to give up, and you need encouragement to keep going. These verses are for you, my sweet friend. 

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Who To Take Relationship Advice From - And Who Not To

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Someone once told me that opinions are like buttholes - everyone’s got one. I have always loved and lived by that piece of well-spoken wisdom. Everyone knows how you should be living your life or what you should or shouldn’t be doing in your relationships. Most people will be more than willing to share their inflated knowledge with you, usually without you even asking. 

When navigating marriage, there are so many hurdles and challenges to work through and overcome. You are going to need advice. You are going to need counsel and guidance. With opinions flying around from every side, how can you know who’s advice to take to heart and apply and who to just smile and nod at as their words just bounce off your forehead? How can you discern who's just talking out of their hind ends and who is actually offering genuine help and wisdom?

Today’s post is for my dear sisters out there are in a marriage that is struggling. You worry you’re failing and that you will never figure it out but you don’t want to give up, and you need encouragement to keep going. These verses are for you, my sweet friend. 

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How To Keep Loving When You Feel Neglected

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A year ago my husband & I were in a very different place than we are now. Very different. I eventually gave up on the blog title idea but never deleted it. Going through my phone a couple months ago I came across the title again and this time I realized that it was never meant to be a blog post idea but a question from my heavy soul to my loving Father. 

I was a wife who felt very neglected but wanted to learn how to love in spite of how I felt. I wanted to learn to take charge of my feelings and emotions and love my husband even when I felt abandoned or believed he didn’t deserve it. 

Mike and I have had so much breakthrough and healing over the course of the last year. So now I sit once again to write out this post. This time I come to share all that the last year has taught me. If you are feeling neglected, abandoned or forgotten then this, my sweet friend, is for you.

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