How's Married Life? | Nevertheless I live
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Today I have been married for 151 days. Exactly five months ago I got the amazing privilege to marry my best friend in the entire world. People always ask us, “How is married life,” and I always give the quick general answer “It’s wonderful,” because I think that is all people really want and expect. Today, however, I would love to really answer the question.
How is married life?
Sometimes it’s a little hard.
As the merging of two independent lives is bound to be. It is amazing and wonderful ALL the time. It can be challenging from time to time, but every challenge is worth it because we are closer and stronger after.
It is overwhelming.
I did’t think I could love someone so much. My love for this man grows more and more with each and every passing day. And it’s such a healthy love. My love for him feels good and pure. I am not sure if that makes sense. In a world with so many people struggling with codependency and unhealthy relationships, I am glad that we are both dependent on Christ and from that flows our ever increasing love for each other. It is hard to comprehend how blessed I am to have a man like Mike.
It is exciting.
I love thinking about our future. I love planning and dreaming about the directions our careers will go in. I love making lists of things that I want our dream home to have and the land that will surround it. I LOVE thinking about the children we will someday raise together. I love thinking about the children we will someday adopt and foster. I can not wait to watch my husband be a father.
It is fulfilling.
He is my best friend in the entire world. He is my support. He is my fan club. God has given me this person to weather life with. He’s my team mate. Anything that comes against one of us has both of us to face.
It is sweet.
He is sweet. He leaves me adorable notes and makes us breakfast on the weekends. He knows I am touchy because I am a physical touch love language so he always reaches for my hand whether we’re shopping and he has to try and steer the cart with the other hand or we’re in the car or just sitting on porch. I feel loved. That is an awesome thing. As someone who spent a lot of life thinking they were unloved, knowing that my husband loves me is something that I am very grateful for.
It is comfortable.
Not in a negative boring routine kind of way. By comfortable I mean I am so comfortable just being myself. I have very few insecurities. I feel safe with him. I feel secure. I feel unashamed.
So how is married life? Married life is wonderful. Thank you for asking.
I was asking God what to do. How can I be a good wife to my husband? I feel like I am approaching the days where “newlywed” will no longer apply and I still feel like I am failing miserably at loving him well. How can I build a successful business? Sometimes the only thing that keeps me doing it is the fact that I know that I know it is what I am supposed to be doing. How can I be a good friend, daughter, sister, leader, disciple maker, etc. How I just be enough?
I was rambling on just like this when I heard the Lord say two words that put everything into perspective for me. With two simple words He once again calmed the raging storm inside my soul. He said, “be faithful.”